By Mindy Wolfle
January’s column ended with this quote from Michelle Tillis Lederman in 11 Laws of Likability, “Whether they stem from business or personal situations, our relationships are what support us, connect us, and allow us to progress in all aspects of our lives. People do business with people they like.”
For February’s column Striker Corbin, motivational speaker, certified hypnotist and success coach, elaborates on just how to accomplish meaningful relationships-building in business.
Q: How do people, in today’s world of immediate communications and stress felt even by children, create energy from within?
A: If you believe the world is dangerous, that it’s hard to make money, then I can’t argue with you. You will be able to find all the evidence that you need to prove your point. If you have a negative focus or beliefs, they become self-fulfilling prophecies that you literally create. The key is to know what you believe and why you believe it.
Turn off the news, stay off social media, and the like, if they’re keeping you from being in a place of feeling optimistic, passionate and excited. You don’t have to be plugged in 24/7. If something is large enough in the news and it is something you really need to know about, it will come across your consciousness. Stop to really understand the concept that what you focus on expands and that through your thoughts, your emotions and the inspired actions you take (or chose not to take) create your successes and failures.
Q: How does physical and emotional well-being relate to business success?
A: You are in complete control over your destiny as you determine your thoughts, your emotions and the actions you take regarding your health, your abundance and the quality of your relationships. When you feel confident and radiate self-love, (don’t confuse self-love with arrogance), you have a good understanding of who you are and are comfortable in your own skin. You don’t fear embarrassment, failure or worrying about how you’re perceived by others. That love of self creates a magnetic energy that reaches people and they, for reasons often unknown to them, want to know you personally or do business with you professionally. They want to be near that positive energy you exude. It pulls in positive events and positive people.
Q: What is your advice “in a nutshell” to turn personal connections into meaningful relationships?
A: When you are in public you never know where your next client, associate or friend can come from. The key is to not be tied to an outcome. I will often try to strike up a conversation with persons near me. When I do so, it is from a position of being genuine. I don’t have any motive, except to connect and just share a nice moment. I don’t need them to like me. I don’t need their phone number. I don’t need anything from them. When you are not tied to an outcome and you don’t have to have their business, you are more yourself. That leads to professional success and it creates an ‘energy,’ a magnetism to which others are naturally drawn.